Family Man – Or Is He?
The man who often prides himself on putting his family first and foremost was taken aback by his middle child Ali, who went on social media to tell the truth about her father.
Worldwide Sensation
With 17 American Country Music awards, 35 number one singles, and 14 albums that topped charts outstandingly, it is no surprise that Alan Jackson has been named one of the most popular country music stars of his generation. But there is more to the Georgia native than selling over 80 million records worldwide – and no, we are not talking about his rather peculiar choice of favorite sandwich, which includes pineapple and mayonnaise. We are talking about what happens the minute Jackson walks off stage.
Biggest Influence
Born in Newnan, Georgia, Jackson was the only boy among five children in total. Growing up with four sisters taught the man plenty about respecting women and how to act around them, as well as how one should stand their ground when living in a crowded household. Alan also attended church from a very young age, since his parents were devoted Christians who wanted their child to be brought up in an environment that nurtures faith and is God-abiding.
Man Of Faith
Going to church every Sunday not only caused Alan to be a man of faith, but also granted him the opportunity to sing, something he enjoyed doing but never gave too much thought to. However, belting out songs was not something Alan considered to be a long-term affair, and did not see himself heading down the path of becoming a professional musician. His childhood home was built around his grandpa’s old tool shed, where he was taught to live life simply and had a down-to-earth upbringing.
The Moment Everything Changed
Only when his close friend started playing him country music including some of the biggest names in the industry did Alan realize there was something to this genre, something he could not quite put his finger on. While listening to Gene Watson and Hank Williams Jr., Alan became inspired to put together a band. Despite the growing obsession, Alan postponed making a bold move and kicking off his musical career until he was 27 years of age, when he and his wife decided to move to Nashville.
A Coin Toss
If you were to ever ask Alan about the first time he had laid eyes on Denise, you would be guaranteed a story that would cause you to smile. One day, as he was sitting down for a meal at a Dairy Queen restaurant, Alan spotted Denise sitting at a table close by. He could not make up his mind as to how to grab her attention, so he did the first thing he could think of – he tossed a coin her way.
True Love
The coin toss stunt must have had a positive effect on Denise since after she left the restaurant, Alan followed her home, asked her out, and she was quick to agree. After that incident, the rest of history. The lovebirds enjoyed each other’s company to a great extent, driving around town in Alan’s beloved 1955 Thunderbird convertible. Come 1979, the two walked down the aisle, and said “I do,” excited to spend the rest of their lives together as husband and wife.
He Needed Help
After the two tied the knot and moved to the country music capital of the world, Alan was juggling different jobs trying to make ends meet. He was working at the Nashville Network’s mailroom when suddenly, his wife came home from work with exciting news: as a flight attendant, she often met people from all over the world, and she experienced a chance encounter with Glen Campbell. The Rhinestone Cowboy heard about Alan and offered his help immediately.
His Big Break
Campbell wanted to help Alan to get on the right track, by which he meant to sign a deal with Arista Records. It was this very same label that released his first single, “Blue Blooded Woman,” which came out in 1989. One short year later, Alan had a parent album released, Here In The Real World, which consisted of his first chart-topping single, “I’d Love You All Over Again.” However, despite his rise toward fame, Alan’s life was far from perfect.
On The Rise
Alan Jackson produced four more number one hits, which were then followed by his first album that topped country charts titled A Lot About Livin’. He continued to rule the country music scene all throughout the 1990’s, singing singles that gained worldwide recognition like “Chattahoochee.” It was this very same single that had won both Song and Single Of The Year at the CMAs in 1994. The next year was a highly significant one for Alan, who gained membership into the prestigious Grand Ole Opry and booked a 100-date U.S. tour.
Foolish Mistake
While his tour profited him a cool $40 million, Alan was never one to be blown away by cold hard cash. In spite of this, the life he led of fame and fortune confused the man who used to stand behind his word and put everything he held dear to his heart at jeopardy because of a foolish mistake. This decade brought him his three cherished daughters who he values more than anything, but it also nearly tore his entire family apart.
Seemingly Perfect
Mattie Denise, the oldest, was born in 1990. Alexandra Jane “Ali” came into the family three years later, and Dani Grace was the last child to join the Jackson crew in 1997. For a while, it seemed as though life does not get any sweeter than this – Alan Jackson was a successful musician in his field who has made an international name for himself, his wife, Denise, was supportive of her husband despite him often being away, and their three girls were healthy and chipper.
Nearly Tore The Family Apart
After almost two decades of being married to the woman who stole his heart that eventful day in Dairy Queen, Jackson had a slip. The man had a fling, one that was short-lived, but caused long-term damage, nonetheless. When news of his adultery hit the fan, Jackson admitted his work commitments pressured him greatly and caused him to seek comfort in other places. Devastated by the news, Denise had enough and the two separated in 1998. But then, something unexpected happened.
Gluing The Pieces Back Together
After several months, Denise and Alan met up in private and had a serious talk. Coming to terms with the fact they still love each other immensely, the pair decided to try and patch things up. Eventually, they reconciled, which Denis later elaborated about her 2007 memoir, It’s All About Him: Finding The Love Of My Life. Denise shared how difficult it was putting everything in the past and looking forward into the future, which helped her move past the events that nearly tore up her marriage.
9/11 Tribute
The affair was not the only event that affected Alan Jackson’s life considerably. Following the events of the 9/11 attack, Jackson released a song titled “Where Were You (When the World Stopped Turning),” which achieved him mainstream recognition and success. The song was an emotional tribute to the victims of the terror attack and dedicated to their torn up loved ones who had to deal with the endless voids that formed in their hearts. The song was later voted Best Country Song at the Grammy Awards.
Diagnosed With Cancer
Ali was not the only Jackson member who was in the spotlight for unfortunate reasons. Sadly, his wife Denise was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010, which caused the Jackson family to undergo yet another difficult time. After two long, hard years of battling the horrible disease, Denise was given the best news she could imagine – her cancer was finally gone. Her appreciative husband later chronicled her battle with the disease as “the hardest thing [he’s] ever been through” and applauded her as “the toughest person [he] know[s].”
More Than Words
Before daughter Ali revealed the truth about her father, it was Jackson who was upfront about his experience raising three daughters. In his 2012 album, Thirty Miles West, Alan included a track that he wrote primarily for his girls, which he titled “Her Life’s A Song.” Jackson later gave an interview to promote the record, and he spoke of how far they have all come into their own. His youngest, Dani, was apparently following in his musical footsteps, he said proudly.
Back To Basics
In the same interview Alan gave while promoting his new album, the celebrated singer discussed looking forward to watching his girls grow and become independent women. “We’ve raised them to go out and take on the world,” he noted. “That’s what you want them to do, just be happy and healthy. I think we’ll be fine with it.” Since their daughters’ way of upbringing was something both parents agreed upon firmly, Alan and Denise decided to get rid of their extravagant Nashville estate and purchase a more modest home instead.
Never Feeling Worthy
Notwithstanding the progress and acknowledgment Alan Jackson had received until then, it was only in 2017 that Jackson was inducted into the Country Music Hall of Fame. In an interview with Rolling Stone Magazine, the superstar explained that in spite of all his success, he still did not “feel quite worthy” of the honor given. One person who had plenty to say about this induction was Alan’s daughter Ali, who went on to her Facebook page to express her deepest thoughts on the matter.
Underage And Untamed
Ali wasn’t always the easiest daughter. In 2013, the middle child proved to have quite a rebellious side as she was charged with assaulting a police officer, resisting arrest and consuming alcohol while still being under the legal drinking age. Since her character seemed mature enough to avoid future temptation and she appeared to be overall remorseful for giving her family grief, Ali reached a plea agreement with a relatively small slap on the wrist. Instead of jail time, she received community service along with anger management and alcohol safety courses.
Truth Comes Out
In her post, Ali wrote: “The world sees you as follows: a great musician, an impressive songwriter, and a talented vocalist,” she wrote, adding, “I see you as: my best friend, the guy that taught me that how you treat people matters more than anything else and taught me just how to stand on my own two feet.” But Ali did not stop there. It was important for her to stress why she felt the need to protect her father’s name, despite any of his past wrongdoings.
Every Daughter’s Dream Father
Ali used her voice to pass forward a moving message, one that described her father, Alan Jackson, as “every daughter’s dream father.” Ali knew she could count on her dad no matter what. He was a constant reminder of what a role model should be like – one that fills their home with love, understanding – and, of course, music. She praised Jackson for “making sure [they] knew whatever [their] dream was could be [their] reality.” It is no surprise this particular post went viral. But then, she got surprising replies.
Chiming In
Reading his precious daughter’s admiring message, it did not take long for many of Jackson’s fans to share similar positive feedback in response. One user wrote: “His songs are wonderful and you knew he was a dedicated family man. You can see why his daughters are so proud of him.” Another chimed in, noting in appreciation how nice it was to read such words from the singer’s daughter: “What a beautiful tribute to Alan Jackson, love his music.” But now…
Future Plans
Alan and Denise Jackson’s three daughters may have lived in their father’s shadow while growing up, but the trusty trio has great things lined up in their future. Eldest daughter Mattie has proven to have both beauty and brains and became a qualified sommelier. Putting her skills to good use, the girl now owns her own Nashville wine bar. As for Ali and Dani – both have recently spread their wings and fled the nest. As for their father…
Top Priority Is To Be Himself
Alan continues to try and make up for his wrongdoings in the past by being the best possible father and husband he can be. As for his music, he was quoted saying: “I’ve always tried to make music the first priority – not being a star, not being in the spotlight, just trying to make music that I loved, that the fans like, and not compromise that to fit into something else.” On that note, we look forward to seeing what great things Alan Jackson has up and coming.
Tori Roloff Makes Devastating Family Announcement
In the latter part of last year, Tori and Zach Roloff brought a beautiful little bundle of joy into the world. But this happy event was followed by a devastating family announcement. If you’re not familiar with the story of these two young people, keep reading.
Potential Consequences
Zach and Tori had been dating for four years when Zach finally proposed. The answer was a resounding yes even though Tori knew starting a life and family with Zach was going to present some challenges.
Tough Tori was aware of these challenges, she had no idea how big the dangers and obstacles would be.
Let’s Try
Once the couple tied the knot, they began to talk about starting a family. Both Tori and Zach were adamant that they wanted to build a family, but both were very honest about the risk that this entailed.
They knew that the chance of health complications was there, but even with that, they decided the risk was worth the reward. So the couple began trying to get pregnant. This, however, was the first step on a long and tumultuous road.
First Child
It didn’t take long for the two to find out that they were expecting. Nine months after Tori Roloff gave birth and became a mom for the very first time. This was an exciting event in her and Zach’s life. Like any other couple, they were nervous about raising a child.
But unlike many of their friends and family that had already brought life into the world, they had more to worry about.
Genetic Traits
Zach and several of his family all live with dwarfism, and this brings extra difficulties to surmount. Not only with daily activities but with their health. Zach himself had to go through many surgeries as he grew up.
His dad, Matthew, requires even more attention due to the form of dwarfism he was born with. Zach’s mom Amy on the other hand, hasn’t had as many health concerns as the two men. Even with all that, though, it is incredible the amount of and type of work they were able to manage.
In the Beginning
Tori Roloff went to work on the family farm, and it wasn’t long before the fans of the show felt that she and Zach were the perfect couple. Eventually, Zach agreed, and four months after Tori started working there, he asked her out.
She clearly said yes, and after dating for just a short period, Tori knew she had found her Prince Charming. But she had no idea the hurdles that this fairytale romance would bring into her life.
Their Own Dream
Hollywood loves a good spin-off, and when Amy and Matthew began to dream of a different career, the show was ripe for one. So in 2012, Zach’s parents stepped out and took the leading roles in their own reality show called Little People, Big World: Wedding Farm.
This followed them as they started working on their own wedding planning business. The show didn’t have the ratings of the original, and so it only lasted one season.
“I Quit!”
With cameras in their faces and lives every day and every hour, you can imagine tension and frustration might begin to mount. This would be especially true if you were a young man, and so the youngest family member, Jacob, decided to quit.
He felt that the family on the screen was not the one he lived with, but rather characters of themselves. Jacob didn’t want to portray something he wasn’t, so he bowed out gracefully.
Office Romance
The office romance unfolded over a few years before it moved on to a more permanent relationship with the engagement. Even with the stray eyed love, the couple has had their share of issues. Tori Roloff was aware of the problems that might arise from the pairing.
However, she wasn’t aware of how emotionally draining they might be. Even still, she knew she loved Zach, and so she pushed through all the challenges and uncertainty.
Down the Aisle
A wedding is a big event in anyone’s lives, but it becomes even bigger when you are a star on a hit reality series. So with the events covered thoroughly by TLC cameras, Zach and Tori finally walked down the aisle in July of 2015.
The ceremony was small with just 100 people, and though not the first wedding on the show, was by far the one everyone was waiting for.
Transferable Skills
Having the experience of controlling multiple children and getting them to focus on you is an important skill to have as a new mom. So Tori Roloff started off her new job with the scale tipped in her favor, as she not only worked on the farm but was a kindergarten teacher as well.
Of course, she had to take some time off from the job when the baby was born, but she told several people she couldn’t wait to introduce the baby to her kids.
Mixed Emotions
Of course, Tori Roloff was aware that the little one could inherit the dwarfism gene from Zach. He was born with achondroplasia, and so with that in mind, the couple was prepared for the news if it came.
In May of 2017, they got the results, and it was confirmed that little one did inherit the gene. Even with the news, though, the couple were still excited and knew that they were going to go through a whole range of emotions through the pregnancy and into the child’s young life.
Lucky #7
But before the little bundle of joy could enter their lives and the world, there was another important milestone for the couple. Tori Roloff made sure that the world knew how much she loved Zach when their 7th anniversary of being together came around.
She posted a beautiful picture and post on Instagram that expressed how important Zach was to her and how her life would not be the same or as happy if they hadn’t met.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
The wedding was a rousing success and one of the family’s happiest moments, but another announcement would take the family and fans by surprise. Later that same year, Zach’s parents announced that they were splitting up after 30 years of marriage.
They fully intended to keep working together on their joint ventures and still planned to focus on their family, but they needed to go their own ways in regards to their relationship.
Jackson Makes His Entry
In May of 2017, Tori and Zach welcomed Jackson, their son, into the world. They later would come to find out he shared his father’s dwarfism gene, which was okay with Zach. He told several people in interviews he knew they would have to encourage them more.
When dealing with the trials of dwarfism, the boy was always going to have to work a little harder. But Zach still wanted to raise him with the understanding that not everyone gets a trophy.
Updates Galore
The couple knew they didn’t want Jackson to feel like his dwarfism would keep him from doing anything he wanted to.
That is why Tori Roloff made sure to give constant updates via social media on Jackson’s progress and life. But soon, she would find out it wasn’t only about Jackson’s struggles but hers as well.
Unexpected Challenge
Tori Roloff kept the updates on Jackson coming, and they were all positive, but in one post, she discussed her challenges in breastfeeding. She was very transparent with the fact she found breastfeeding challenging.
She was shocked as it is a natural part of the process, and she didn’t realize how hard it would be. New moms all over the country and the world sympathized with her and appreciated her honesty.
Honesty Is the Best Policy
Tori Roloff continued to be open about the struggles of breastfeeding. She even discussed how hard it is for women who can’t breastfeed to answer simple check-up questions. For instance, how is breastfeeding going?
Once again, moms worldwide were awed by her courage and gave a lot of support and praise for being so open. After all, a lot of new moms are ashamed to talk about their problems.
Let’s Add Another One
Though she struggled and was concerned about adding another child to the mix, Tori and Zach decided they wanted a bigger family. In several interviews, the couple discussed the desire for a larger family.
Zach even went on to say they were thinking that four or five was a good number. But the couple was also a go-with-the-flow kind of couple and believed if it happens, it happens. But there is a big announcement coming!
Second Time Around
Tori and Zach had already discussed with the world they wanted to give Jackson a sibling or two. Then it happened, and they announced last year that they were expecting their second child.
Not long after the announcement, Tori’s Instagram feed was filled with pictures from a photoshoot in a beautiful field. Plus, they also announced in one of the posts that the baby was going to be a girl!
Big Brother
That photoshoot had a special guest star… Jackson. The then 2-year-old made an appearance wearing a cute t-shirt that had “Big Brother” printed across it. He seemed pretty happy as the couple kneeled at his side and held a picture of the sonogram.
Even though the couple looked happy, many fans were concerned after a few previous posts from Tori Roloff. In these posts, she talked about life being challenging.
It’s Natural
Tori Roloff was always a big supporter of breastfeeding, even though it is stigmatized in modern society. One of the biggest debates in the mom communities is whether breastfeeding in public is a do or don’t.
Many new mothers feel awkward doing it, and the societal outlooks don’t help any. But on the other hand, if a mother opts not to breastfeed, they are looked down on as well. It seems that you can’t please everyone.
Public Feeding
The public breastfeeding debate often leads new moms to assume that the law is against it, but they would be misinformed. In fact, in most of the US, excluding one state, public breastfeeding is legal.
The only hold out is Idaho. When it comes to public breastfeeding, where the real problem comes is the verbal and provocation instigated by other people. But Tori Roloff is working to make this a non-issue.
Are They Staring?
Tori Roloff has been very vocal about how uncomfortable and awkward feeding in public was for her with her first child. But then she asked herself why should she feel awkward? After all, it is a natural act.
So she remains very vocal about the importance of removing the stigma associated with breastfeeding in public. She has been so vocal that she has gotten a lot of praise from mothers and medical professionals alike.
Motherly Duties
The fact that Tori Roloff had a lot of problems breastfeeding Jackson makes her dedication to the cause even stronger. She struggled, but through perseverance, she was able to conquer the difficulties.
Often when mothers have as many problems as Tori, they give up and trade the natural milk for formulas or other options. Sometimes this is a necessity, but Tori felt it was important to be able to do things the natural way.
Praise Followed
Tori Roloff’s consistent openness and honesty about her struggles and the struggles of many other mothers garnered a lot of positive attention. With her large social media following, she was inundated with praise.
Her followers thanked her for being so open and backed her when she talked about how women should not be made to feel guilty or degraded when breastfeeding in public. Her followers weren’t the only ones to speak up.
Doctor Recommended
Medical professionals also spoke up in the comment section of her posts. The response was positive, but a few mentioned the recent push to try to get all women to breastfeed.
Many professionals feel the process is important, but the constant push could be setting up certain mothers for depression and emotional distress. This is especially true for those that can’t for reasons beyond their control. It seems this topic is super intricate and one that should be maneuvered with the help of a woman’s doctor.
Shared Emotional Challenges
Tori Roloff isn’t the only Roloff woman who had had some issues when it came to motherhood. Audrey, Tori’s sister in law, also expressed her pregnancy issues via social media. Audrey was super open with how hard it was to manage all the emotions of becoming a mother.
On top of the job of pregnancy, Audrey was trying to balance running her own business as well. Needless to say, there were a lot of emotions floating around.
Juggling Responsibilities
In fact, in the post, Audrey asked other mompreneurs how they did it. She was raw with her concerns and fears about the shifting of priorities and her ability to make those adjustments smoothly.
She was just reaching out for a little advice and maybe reassurance that she could do it. But the response she got really surprised her. It seems that there was no need to feel as lost as she felt plenty of women were about to reach out to her.
That’s Normal
The response to Audrey’s very open and real feelings was especially outstanding from her followers. They all let her know that those feelings are something that almost every woman feels at some point.
They also let her know that every mom has their own way of dealing with the balancing act of working and raising children. But the number one priority is always the baby; after all, most businesses can be automated, but a baby cannot.
Other Celebrity Mom’s Weigh In
Tori Roloff and Audrey are by no means the only “celebrity” moms that have spoken out on the difficulties of motherhood. Many others, like Chrissy Teigen and Alanis Morrissette, have also discussed their issues.
This includes the stigma of breastfeeding. Many of these celebrities have taken to social media and posted pics of them feeding in public to attempt to remove the stigma. Hopefully, if people with this level of visibility keep doing it will become less controversial.
The Struggle Is Real
From the beginning, Tori and Zach faced a lot of criticism from outside sources. From their relationship to their deciding to have a family, it seemed like their celebrity status left them open for everyone to say something.
Tori used her social media to show that they may be in the spotlight, but she and her family go through the same struggles as the “normal” person.
Real-Life Reality
One of the reasons that Tori Roloff and her family were so popular was that the show portrayed what life was like for the family. In fact, it was so well received that it got renewed for a second season without much thought.
Many critics loved the open and honest portrayal of what life was like for the family dealing with the challenges of living with dwarfism. The show never tried to exploit this situation, and that made it feel real and uplifting.
Everyday Hurdles
The Roloff family wasn’t shy about sharing everything they could with the audience. In fact, they took the opportunity to share and educate people on life and the struggles of living with dwarfism. When the opportunity came up to have their own show, there was never a hesitation.
In fact, Amy told an interviewer one time that she jumped at the chance. There were no shows that depicted a family with dwarfism accurately, and she felt she and her family could do that.
Stardom’s Path
The show launched the entire family into reality stardom. Why was it so captivating? Not only did it introduce people to a family that lived with dwarfism but in general, just a functional family.
The show took the audience through the life of a family that was just like everyone else. The only exception was some members living with dwarfism and yet were portrayed as an appealing, real, and dynamic family.
Moving On
After Amy and Matt split, it wasn’t long until Matt had found a new love, Caryn Chandler. The friends had been flirting for years as Caryn had been present in the family’s life for a long time as the farm manager.
She had been running the farm for a decade when Matt was able to act on his feelings and begin dating her. The two seem to be very happy.
Breakup Rumors
But like with all relationships in the public eye, there are always rumors that start to circulate. The big one was that the couple was on the brink of splitting. This rumor probably started when it was announced that Caryn was no longer the farm manager.
Matt was quick to respond to the rumors. He let the world know that they had not split and that they were still very happy.
Happy Announcement
Zach and Tori’s fans all start getting excited when news that there is a second bundle of joy on the way. The rumors really took off after Zach shared a video of his wife wearing baggy clothes and eating.
Tori rather quickly shot down the rumors and said that she thought that asking a woman if she was pregnant could be hurtful if that woman was unable to conceive. She also clarified she liked baggy clothes and food.
Close Call
Then news of a car accident hit the internet, and her fans were scared. She and Jackson had both been in the car when they were hit, and the car totaled. The accident was pretty serious, but both mom and son walked away just fine.
She confirmed this in a post with a picture of their new car. Tori Roloff let her fans know she was fine, and so was Jackson. She went on to say that it could have been the scariest moment of her life, though.
Safety First
Tori and Zach don’t always get happy comments on their posts, though. During a family vacation to Hawaii, the couple posted a picture of Jackson in a boat san life vest, and the post went crazy with a concerned citizen.
They criticized them for being negligent. But Grandpa quickly posted a pic with Jackson in the vest and said that when on the water, the parents definitely made sure Jackson was wearing safety gear.
Thanks & Giving
Tori took to social media again to wish all her fans a very Happy Thanksgiving from the family. The picture had everyone, including the newest addition, Lilah.
The little one had been born just two weeks before the holiday, and the questions were flying around on whether the little girl would have the same dwarfism gene as her dad and brother. Tori was very familiar with the feeling of waiting for the result of the test.
Finally, She’s Here
The fans of the couple had eagerly been waiting for the birth of the new little one. Of course, the wait was full of ups and downs and tons of questions. Eventually, the questions were answered…
Lilah did have the same dwarfism gene. Tori and Zach haven’t talked about it much because the fans are sure that this family is ready to handle whatever challenges come up and do so with honesty and heart.